Anger reflects many feelings and occurs for reasons that aren’t clear. We can try to figure out why but also we must respond to the behaviour.
Example: You are having dinner with your father in the residents’ dining room. You watch your father struggle to cut his meat and get the food to his mouth. You offer to help and begin to cut his food. He lets you for a minute, but then grabs your wrist and threatens to “smack you if you try that again!” Your father has never laid a hand on you and you are horrified that this just happened.