Making the best of the holiday season
The holiday and winter season is in full swing. For many of us, the holidays are a very special time of year. For those of us who are caring for someone with dementia, the holidays can be a bit more challenging.
There are many things we can do to make the best out of the holidays! Planning early, simplifying events and setting realistic expectations can go a long way to reduce stress and helping to ensure a warm, enjoyable holiday season.
Discuss ahead of time as a family what the holidays will look like, and try to keep as close to a regular routine as possible.
Have a list of doctors’ offices and pharmacies that are open over the holidays in case of emergency. If the person living with dementia takes medication, ensure they have enough for the holiday period.
Shop for gifts early; try to avoid the hectic atmosphere of last-minute shopping. If shopping online is an option for you, that could be an easier and safer option.
Ask for help with shopping or cooking from a friend or neighbour.
Keep gatherings small. Having less people and less noise can reduce feelings of being overwhelmed, especially in later stages of dementia.
A potluck dinner is a great way for everyone to contribute and can lessen the expectation on you.
Try to choose familiar locations. If possible, find a quiet area where the person living with dementia can retreat. Ask someone to keep them company.
Consider celebrating over lunch or brunch, rather than an evening mealtime. The person you are caring for may be less restless at earlier times of day.
Keep Realistic Expectations:
Overall, be flexible in the moment but recognize when you need a break. It’s okay to ask for (and accept!) help.
Try to be in the moment with the person – if they are focused on past events, try and meet them where they are, not to reorient them. Perhaps look through an old photo album together or sing favourite songs.
This year, we can all enjoy the season by meeting the person living with dementia where they are. Maybe your person can’t play their favourite holiday tunes on the piano like they once could; but they may be able to sing along instead. Maybe they can no longer string the lights on the tree themselves; but they might love a drive to look at the lights of the neighbourhood houses.
By planning ahead and keeping an open mind, the holidays can be a wonderful time for both persons living with dementia and their caregivers. The Alzheimer Society of Nova Scotia can help provide you with further resources, or someone to talk to. Our Infoline staff are happy to talk any time and can be reached at 1-800-611-6345.